5 ways to teach your kids more about Independence Day

India will celebrate her 70th Independence Day on August 15, 2016. Today’s kids hardly know much about our Independence and the struggle our people went through to attain it. However, you can use this Independence Day as the perfect opportunity to bond with your child while imparting knowledge in fun ways and prepare your kid to be a responsible citizen for the future of India.
Here are few ways through which you can make this Independence Day special and bond with your family.

1. Perform a play

In order to teach your kids more about Independence Day you can produce a play revolving around the theme of Independence. You can ask other family members to participate and act out roles of different freedom fighters. This is a fun way to engage your children and teach them about our glorious past. It will also help you connect, as a family.

2. Read out stories

There are many stories written about our Independence. You can carry out a reading session at your place or in your society where different families can read out stories about the different struggles or stories of our freedom fighters. The kids will find it fun and you’ll feel a special connection with your family as well as your neighbours.

3. Show patriotic movies

You can run a movie marathon for your family. Show patriotic movies to your kids in order to help them learn more. Movies have a great impact on people and showing patriotic movies will help your child understand Independence Day better. You can show movies like Gandhi, The Legend of Bhagat Singh, Shaheed, Mangal Pandey – The Rising, etc.

4. Trips to historic monuments/places

Nothing tells us more about our history than the places themselves. Taking trips to such places will not only be a good idea to bond with the family but will also teach your kids so much about the journey of Independence. This educative cum fun family outing will help your kid learn a lot and you will also get a chance to explore more.

5. Carry out competitions

Try and bring as many people as possible to involve in this activity. Ask your neighbours to prepare their children for competitions like fancy dress or plays and at the end you can hand out prizes. This way the kids will try and give their best and in the process learn about our Independence Day.

Many people crib about the new generation not knowing much about the struggles and difficulties our people went through at the time of Independence. This is the time for you, as a parent, to teach your kid and bond with them.

Happy Independence Day!

 

Helpful Parenting Tips

Parenting skills are generally learnt from our own caregivers or through our experiences and observations during our childhood. This process is called “role modelling”. In most cases the role model is a mother or a father or both, but in many cases, the role model could be a grandparent, foster parent, family friend or any other guardian. Throughout these early life experiences, most parents learn healthy and adaptive ways of raising the child. However, for some, it’s a challenge as their own upbringing has gone through some dysfunctional issues like violence, abuse, negligence or other forms which disturbs and restrict their ability to parent.

Past bad experiences can be a challenge for some people. In other words, it can be challenging for them to parent their children differently from how they have been parented. They are always cautious about the fact that what happened to them shouldn’t happen to their children. Parents either having poor childhood memories or good childhood memories are always concerned about their parenting skills.

The road to better parenting or parenting differently from what you experienced begins with the process of self-discovery. Consult a social worker or read books related to the ways of overcoming bad experiences you had as a child which is now affecting your adult life and parenting. This will give you a clear view of yourself to fully and deeply examine and determine “what to act” and “how we act”.

This is the first step of parenting. By understanding ourselves, we are then better equipped to recognize our current parenting behavior. It enables us to contrast our behaviour with what children really need for healthy development. In case of discrepancy between what we now realize we are doing and what is actually best for children, steps can be taken to improve the matter. The next steps involve shedding the old patterns of parenting behaviors in favour of adopting new parenting skills.

Strategies to become a better parent can come in several different forms and include everything from reading books, to notes on the refrigerator door, to counselling, to support groups, to parenting classes. Along the way, you may desire to adopt a new role model. If your role models weren’t healthy, think of someone else, whose parenting abilities you admire. This could be a friend’s parent, a fictional character from a book or even a television personality. The objective here is to pick someone who you know parent well. When you are stuck and wonder what to do, you can think what that person would have done in your situation. This is a nice way to take care of yourself and your children.

HELPFUL PARENTING TIPS

  • Phone

    Does your child suddenly seek your attention or phone when you’re busy chatting with a friend? Get your child a toy phone, or give your child an old cell phone without battery that you are not using. This may even work better than a toy phone, since some children know what’s a toy, and what’s the real deal!

  • Manners

    Do you want your child to speak politely and mind his/her manners? Make sure you do the same, especially when speaking with him/her. Try and think of ways in which you can use words like “Thank-You” and “Please”. For example, you could say, “Can I see your doll, please?” Then return it to her and say, “Thank you.” Encourage her to reply with, “You’re Welcome.”

  • Breastfeeding

    You’re out of the house with your baby, shopping at the mall, when your baby starts wailing. It’s time for a feed. One of the best things to do is to take your baby to a changing room at a store and breastfeed there. Alternatively, take her to the ladies restroom and feed her there. Many restaurants, large stores and hotels have fairly swanky restrooms with a seating area inside, so you don’t need to take her all the way into the cubicle and feed her while sitting on the toilet.

  • Distraction

    Talk to your baby to keep her still when taking her for a haircut, when helping her change her clothes or when changing her diaper. A one-way conversation is not enough stimulation for her, so make sure she participates. A great tip is to ask her to point out various parts of her body. Ask her where her mouth is, where her ears are, and so on.  Wind chimes work great. Change the clothes of the baby under the wind chimes, and tinkle it at the time of changing. Baby will be sufficiently distracted to let the change.

  • Food

    Is your child a fussy eater? Get a plate with a loud, colourful picture painted on. Cover the picture with food, and let him see how, with every spoonful he puts into his mouth, the picture reveals itself. Let your child understand that he needs to finish his food if he wants to see the picture. Draw his attention to the image, and describe it to him. Ask him to repeat after you. Television is better alternate to keep him engrossed.A great tip for fast food, without actually resorting to fast food, is to cook a whole lot of pasta beforehand, and store it in the freezer, in separate lots. Similarly, tomatoes puree, simmer them with chopped capsicum pieces, and freeze the mixture. When you need to get food ready for your kids in a jiffy, pull out a lot of pasta, tomato puree, and cook it along with a few chopped vegetables and cheese. Add fresh basil leaves for flavor.

WAYS TO HANDLE A NEW-BORN

Here are a few basics to remember when you’re handling your new borns:

  1. Wash your hands (or use a hand sanitizer) before handling your baby. Newborns don’t have a strong immune system yet, so they are susceptible to infection. Make sure that everyone who handles your baby has absolutely clean hands.
  2. Be careful to support your baby’s head and neck. Cradle the head when carrying your baby and support the head when carrying the baby upright or when you lay your baby down.
  3. Be careful not to shake your new born vigorously. Strong shaking can cause bleeding in the brain and even death. If you need to wake your infant, don’t do it by shaking, instead, tickle your baby’s feet or blow gently on a cheek.

Make sure your baby is securely fastened into the stroller, or car seat. Limit any activity that could be too rough or bouncy for your child.
Remember that your newborn is not ready for rough play, such as being bounced up and down on the knee or thrown in the air.

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Factors That Effect Fertility

Our conception and ovulation calculators will help you plan out when the best time is for conception, but sometimes there might be many other factors that are preventing you from becoming a mother. Here are a few reasons why many women find it hard to get pregnant.

WOMEN’S ISSUES

General Health Factors

  • Being overweight: Body fat levels that are 10 to 15 percent above normal can overload the body with estrogen, throwing off the reproductive cycle.
  • Being underweight: Body fat levels 10 to 15 percent below normal can completely shut down the reproductive process.
    Having a hormonal imbalance: Irregularities in the hormone system (characterized by irregular menstrual cycles or short, long, or heavy periods) can affect ovulation.
  • Having an autoimmune disorder: Diseases such as lupus, diabetes, thyroid disease, and rheumatoid arthritis can interfere with fertility.
  • Taking medication: Antidepressants, antibiotics, painkillers, and other drugs used to treat chronic disorders may cause temporary infertility.
  • Using tobacco or alcohol: Smoking may increase the risk of infertility in women; and even moderate alcohol consumption (as few as five drinks a week) can impair conception.
  • Being exposed to occupational or environmental hazards: Prolonged exposure to high mental stress, high temperatures, chemicals, radiation, or heavy electromagnetic or microwave emissions may reduce a woman’s fertility.

Fallopian Tube Disease

Fallopian tube disease accounts for about 20 percent of infertility cases treated.  Since tubal scarring or blockage is often caused by sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), pelvic inflammatory disease, or certain surgeries, alert your doctor if you’ve had:

  • An STD, such as gonorrhea, syphilis, or chlamydia
  • Pelvic pain, unusual vaginal discharge, and/or bleeding, with or without a fever
  • Pelvic surgery for a ruptured appendix, ovarian cysts, or an ectopic pregnancy (a pregnancy that takes place outside of the uterus, usually in the fallopian tubes)

If a doctor suspects a problem, he or she can perform a hysterosalpingogram — an X-ray that can evaluate the condition of the uterus and determine if the fallopian tubes are obstructed.

Endometriosis

Endometriosis is a condition in which tissue from the uterine lining grows outside the uterus, on the ovaries, fallopian tubes, bladder, and/or bowel. Research indicates that it accounts for between 5 and 30 percent of female infertility. Several factors may contribute to infertility, including:

  • Scar tissue: Rigid webs of scar tissue may form between the uterus, ovaries, and fallopian tubes, preventing the transfer of the egg to the fallopian tubes.
  • Cysts: Endometrial cysts may grow inside the ovaries and prevent the release of the egg or its collection by the fallopian tube.
  • Poor egg implantation: Endometriosis may prevent the fertilized egg from adhering to the uterine wall.

 

Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)

Some STDs are asymptomatic and lie undetected in women. (For instance, 70 percent of women with chlamydia show no symptoms and consequently don’t seek treatment.) The bad news is that STDs can lead to tubal scarring, ectopic pregnancy, other reproductive problems, and ultimately infertility if left untreated. To reduce this risk:

  • Use latex condoms to stop diseases from spreading
  • Consider that people with multiple sex partners are at the highest risk for STDs
  • Detect and treat infections early if possible (both partners should be treated if either has an infection)

 

MEN’S ISSUES

The following is a partial list of risk factors that may contribute to male infertility,

  • Being a smoker: Smoking impairs the ability of sperm to move (its motility).
  • Using alcohol: Having more than one or two drinks a day can affect the quality and quantity of sperm, lower testosterone levels, and contribute to erectile dysfunction.
  • Taking illegal drugs: Cocaine or heavy marijuana use may temporarily reduce the number and quality of sperm by as much as 50 percent.
  • Taking prescription drugs: Some medications, such as those for ulcers or psoriasis, can slow or prevent the production of sperm.
    Being exposed to toxic substances or hazards on the job: Chronic exposure to elements such as lead, cadmium, mercury, hydrocarbons, pesticides, radioactivity, and X-rays may have an impact on sperm count and quality.
    Exposing genitals to heat: The frequent use of saunas, steam rooms, hot tubs, whirlpools, and hot baths can temporarily impair sperm production and reduce sperm count.
  • Having certain conditions or illnesses: Men with a history of prostatitis or genital infection, mumps after puberty, surgery on their hernia, undescended testicles, or scrotal varicose veins (varicocele) may also experience a decrease in fertility.

For more pregnancy tips from delicious and healthy recipes for your pregnancy diet to learning how to use the pregnancy kit properly, check out the rest of our site.

Nursery Ideas

When the results of your pregnancy test comes positive, you begin a journey that’ll last a lifetime. One of the most important things in the infant stage of your journey is deciding how to decorate your baby’s nursery. Your baby’s bedroom needs to be as functional as it is fabulous. All it needs is a little hard-work, some creativity & out-of-the-box thinking!

PLAYFUL DECOR

Here’s your chance to experiment with colors, patterns, textures, fabrics and wallpapers. You can let your inner artist run free with your little angel’s room décor, because the more colourful and whimsical it is, the more they’ll like it.

WHERE DO I START?

If you don’t know what you need, you could end up wasting money on items that you aren’t going to use. Every advert would made the products sound like necessities. You want your babies to have the best of everything and never go short. But some products are far from essential, so don’t get taken in. One product isn’t suitable for everyone. Think about you and your baby’s particular needs and circumstances. If you live in a flat, you will probably need a changing table in your baby’s room. If you live in a large house, you may need to change your baby downstairs more often.

FAMILY & FRIENDS TO THE RESCUE

Form a baby pool with your group of friends. Each of you can then contribute certain items that babies need, such as a Moses basket, baby bath and so on. Rotate these among the relevant families when each new baby is born. It saves money all around and it’s a good way for items to be re-used.

RESCUING ITEMS YOU ALREADY HAVE

Check what you already have at home before buying more. You can use old baskets and boxes in the house to organise my baby’s hygiene products. There’s no need to buy specially designed storage for your baby’s things.Instead of buying a feeding chair, you can use a chair you already own and use firm cushions for support.

WALL-PAPERING TIPS

  • Don’t Rush it – Wall-papering takes time. Plan on about four hours of wall prep, depending on the condition of the walls, and 10 hours to paper a small room.
  • Focus on preparation – While wallpapering over a painted wall first, sand the wall to dull the glossiness of the paint. Wipe with a tack cloth to remove dust. Then wash the area with a strong household detergent, let dry, and start papering.
  • Create a smooth surface – Wallpapering over a bumpy or textured wall? You have two options: Either cover the wall to be papered with a thin coat of drywall, or simply hang wallpaper liner.
  • Plan carefully – You want your last strip to end in a low-visibility part of the room, because it may be the one place where you cannot match the paper’s pattern exactly. A good place for the mismatch is against a window frame, where it may be obscured by window treatments.
  • Look for long term pieces – Instead of opting for furniture that looks like it’s made for a baby’s room, choose pieces that will grow with your child. Stay away from cutesy patterns and pick timeless classics that you and your child will love for years to come.
  • Get personal – You don’t need fancy artwork or wall hangings. Instead, frame family photos and hang them on the walls for a loving touch.
  • Skip the pricey bedding – Crib bumpers are now considered a SIDS risk, so there’s simply no need to buy an expensive bed set for baby. All you need are some cute fitted sheets and a crib skirt to complete the look. These items can be replaced on the cheap so you can switch up the look of the baby’s crib whenever you want.

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5 Tips for fathers on taking care of their baby when alone

Take a look at the web and you’ll be amazed by the number of “hilarious” photos and videos titled “why you can’t leave your child alone with fathers”, you’ll find there. While they may be funny, it speaks volumes of a problem that we do not necessarily acknowledge. We’re generally taught that it is solely the responsibility of the mother to take care of the child, while the fathers have to take more of a supporting role.

This type of thinking is not just outdated, but insulting to both genders. As mothers, women should not be expected to take care of the child by themselves. Neither should fathers think of raising a child as mostly a “woman’s job”. The father should have enough parent skills to take care of the kid when the mother isn’t around. That is why here are a couple of tips that should help fathers take care of their child when they’re by themselves.

Put their interests first, always

So you enjoy drinking or smoking? Guess what – it’s not good for them, and you’re setting an example with everything you do. Say goodbye to all these bad habits. You should also take this opportunity to get to know your kid, find out his interests, what he likes and dislikes. There are many times that parents are not able to understand or do not know their own kids. Remember, the bond you make in the early years will last for a lifetime.

Talk to your baby as often as you can

Whether you’re carrying your baby or changing diapers you should keep talking. For example, ‘Let’s get this nappy changed. That feels better, doesn’t it? Here’s a nice clean nappy. Don’t cry – we’ll be finished soon’. Studies have shown that every word a baby hears helps develop his language and learning. It also strengthens your relationship with him. Telling stories, reading books or singing songs has the same effect.

Connect through touch

Physical touch should not be underestimated. It makes your baby feel safe and secure and builds trust and connection with you. Research has shown that this kind of bonding with kids also stimulates your baby’s brain development. You should try carrying and holding your baby as often as you can. If you hold her to your chest, she can also hear your heartbeat!

Educate yourself

Remember you’re not alone if you feel nervous or unsure about being a new dad – there are always things to learn. For example, you can find information by checking out Preganews.com, talking with other dads and attending parenting groups. It has to be said that the best way, however, to learn is by doing – spending lots of time caring for your baby.

It’s okay to ask for help

So, now that you’ve volunteered to stay with your child by yourself, you stumble on a problem. You need to remember that if you can’t find a solution to her distress, don’t be too proud to call for some help. Call your wife, call your mother; call her mother; call a friend who has been there. But don’t let yourself get angry or upset. The baby’s needs come first.

The times are changing. Mothers cannot be expected to just stay at home and take care of the baby. Whether it’s their jobs or just a break from everything, there will be times when they’ll be away from the child. That is why the fathers have to step up and take care of their kids. We hope these tips help you in your journey as a father.

5 Things to keep in mind while teaching your kids manners

A parent will quickly realize that while their children may be born with many innate abilities, behaving politely is not one of them. And so, it’s up to you to teach your little bundle of joy how to behave in a polite society.

If you start modeling your children’s behaviors from an early age, you’ll be able to teach them good manners easily. So, read on to learn how to raise a courteous, friendly child who is at home in any social situation.

Expect respect

The root of good manners is respect for another person; and the root of respect is sensitivity. Sensitivity is one of the most valuable qualities you can instill in your child — and it begins at infancy. A sensitive infant will naturally become a respectful child, because he cares for another’s feelings, and will naturally become a well-mannered person.

Their politeness will be more creative and more heartfelt than anything they can learn from a book of etiquette. Now days, especially in big urban areas, it is socially correct to teach children to be “assertive.” Keep in mind, however, being assertive is healthy if it doesn’t override politeness and good manners.

Teach polite words early

Did you know that even two-year-olds can learn to say “please” and “thank you”? Despite not being able to understand the social graciousness of these words, your toddler will realize that “please” is how you get what you want and “thank you” is how you end an interaction. When you plant these social niceties into your child’s vocabulary they will later use them with the understanding that they make others feel good about helping you.

Make it a habit to open with a “please” when you ask your toddler to give you something and to close with a “thank you”. Even before the child grasps the meaning of these words they learns they are important because mommy and daddy use them a lot and they have such nice expressions on their faces when they say these words. Your children will mimic these terms and understand their usefulness long before they understand their meaning.

Acknowledge your child

Try and include your child in adult goings-on, especially if there are no other children present. If you and your kid are in a crowd of mostly adults, tuning out your child is asking for trouble. Even a child who is usually well-behaved will make a nuisance of herself to get your attention. When you include your child, it teaches them social skills, and acknowledging their presence shows them that he they have value.

Stay connected with your child in situations that put them at risk for undesirable behavior. For example during a visit with other adults, make sure that you keep your younger child physically close to you and maintain frequent verbal and eye contact. You should also make an effort to ensure that your older child feels part of the action so that he is less likely to get bored and wander into trouble.

Don’t force manners.

Don’t make this common mistake. While it’s okay to occasionally dangle a “say please” over a child before you grant their request don’t rigidly adhere to asking for the “magic word” before you give your child what he wants.

This is a pretty sure way of tiring the child of these polite words even before he understands them. Make sure that when you remind a child to say “please,” do so as part of good speech, not as a requirement for getting what he wants. Your child should also hear a lot of good speech from you.

Correct politely

When your child makes a mistake, don’t rant and rave like many overreacting parents do. Instead, keep your voice modulated, look the child straight in the eye, and put your hand on his shoulder during your sermon.

These gestures reflect that you are correcting the child because you care. Your politeness will show your child that you value them and want them to learn from her mistakes so she becomes a better person.

Every parent dreams of the polite little child who says “please” and “thank you.” A reason why you should focus on your children’s manners is because it also reflects on you. Understanding the basis of good manners will help your kids become good citizens. Good manners, after all, are necessary for people to live together in this world. Gracious manners reflect a loving and considerate personality.

5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Be Your Child’s Best Friend

We get it. Of course a parent will dream of being their child’s best friend. It sounds absolutely heavenly. But be warned that you might not like it if you get what you yearn for.

The idea of parents being friends with their children isn’t new. The results, however, show that it is NOT a good idea. Period! However, to take care of any doubt, let’s also understand the definition of a friend here! We’re not talking about the dictionary’s definition, but your own definition of a friend.

You should keep in mind that choosing not to be your child’s best friend doesn’t mean that you’re not being supportive or that you’re choosing just to be an enforcer of rules. You’re making the choice to teach your kids rules, boundaries and expectations.

Law and order

Kids will be kids and parents must be parents. There are many times when your lovely bundle of joy will cause havoc without realizing what they’re doing, that’s when you’ll have to take charge and bring order. You have to be the parent your child needs, not the one he or she wants. Even if it means being disliked for some time because you set up some rules. Kids will create chaos; it’s your job to maintain the peace.

If you want your kids to grow up as law respecting citizens you’ll have to dish out punishment when required.

The need of a strong role model

Children need guidance. They require a strong person who’ll tell them what’s right and what’s wrong. If you’re the best friend, they get confused between your roles of convenience. You need to explain the boundaries.

They have to respect you enough to take your words seriously when you’re teaching about respect, conviction and perseverance. If you’re careless in your interactions with them all the time, your message might not get through.

Friendship is for equals

When you become your kid’s best friend what you’ll be implying is that you are their “partner in crime”. You do not get to scold them even when they’ve become very naughty because BFFs don’t do that. That is why you cannot be equal to your kids.

You need to be in a higher position when you have to lay down rules and enforce discipline. Keep in mind that you as a parent need to have the last word when there’s an argument. You lose this when you start becoming too friendly with your kid.

You’re supposed to be caring for their well-being, who teaches them right and wrong and to correct them. When you become BFF, you lose the authority and compromise on a few non-negotiable rules, which might prove costly in the long run.

Let them be themselves

Allowing your children the freedom to make their own choices is one of the greatest gifts a parent can give. You should not influence your children when they’re making choices.

There are many times when being too close to parents hinders a child’s sense of choice. They can become too dependent on you and will not learn the value of friends or peer group. Constant support and attention can also cause a lot of future problems as the child will not be able to deal without constant admiration, advice or attention. They should have the confidence to make mistakes and learn from them and be able to take their decisions without having some sort of ready-made advice.

Your job as a parent is to prepare your children for life. To be able to talk with your children about real issues, with the intention of teaching them life-skills so they, and you, will feel confident that when they go out on their own, they will be best able to make the safest and smartest choices.

Friends do not have this type of relationship. Good parents do.

 

Getting your kids outdoors

Kids nowadays seem to know more about iPhones and PS4s than “chor-police” and “pitthu”. The rise of technology, while making our lives extremely easy, has also given rise to a generation that prefers spending times indoor than outside. This can have many problems, including health and social problems.

Kids should be limited to less than two hours of entertainment-based screen time per day, and shouldn’t have TVs or Internet access in their bedrooms, according to reports from pediatricians in the United States.

Here are a few things that parents can do to ensure that children drop their phones and play outdoors.

New rules

Apart from limiting all entertainment screen time — including TV, the Internet and various smart devices — to less than two hours daily, children under age 2 should not be allowed screen time. While this is bound to be met with resistance, parents should put their feet down for the greater good.

A good idea is that parents should watch TV shows and movies with children, and monitor their media usage. Finally, families should define clear rules, such as curfews for internet use, or limits on cell phone use during dinner.

The problem is that many parents are clueless about technology and the impact they have on their kids. Children shouldn’t have Internet access or televisions in their rooms, because that makes it too hard for parents to monitor kids’ media use.

Balanced approach

You have to keep in mind that the rules you impose will not be popular. So you need to balance it out. A great idea is to get kids to go outside with their gadgets!

This approach is brilliant because you utilize the children’s interest to introduce a passion for the outdoors. If you just keep telling them to “go out and play”, they are more likely to rebel. But if you can get them to take their phones and pads outside, it’s a win/win for everyone.

Here are a few things you can do:

  • Use technology to help plan or inspire your next outdoor adventure. (Like a Pokemon Go contest)
  • Keep a record of the outdoor experiences with the help of photos, videos or an electronic journal of adventures
  • There are certain apps that help kids turn a walk in the park into an interactive experience with scavenger hunts, nature hikes, and other exciting games.
  • Another great idea would be to simply let kids use their gadget’s camera to try to capture the most amazing nature shot. Or let them surf the web to look up the tree or bird that they saw in the park.

As parents you should know that – technology is here to stay. While you might have to be a bit strict but if it helps your kids fall in love with nature, it is going to be worth it.

4 Things to Keep in Mind While Choosing the Perfect School

One of the biggest problems every parent faces is getting their kids into the right school. As, there are many applicants and the number of seats are limited, the children and parents have to go through the rigmarole of filling application forms, interviews and stress. The thinking now-a-days is that if your kids get into an A-list school, they can make a better future.

There are many things to consider when you’re choosing a school for your kids; here are the most important things you should keep in mind.

Choice of Curriculum

Parents are no longer limited to just schools of the state board or the CBSE now days. From ICSE to The International Baccalaureate (IB)/International General Certificate of Secondary Education (IGCSE) curricula, there are so many options. That is why you need to be very clear on the choice you’re making. If you’re planning to send your kids abroad for further education, it is advisable that you opt for an international board.

Schools’ Credentials

There are a number of “international” schools mushrooming in all corners of every city. It is a lucrative business, given the high fee structures of such schools. It’s a fad amongst people to say that they are sending their child to some “high-end” school, regardless of the education. But that is not enough. You need to do some homework and make sure that the school provides proper education and co-curricular activities for an overall growth and development of the child.

Student-Centric Approach

Today, many schools recognize that all children are not equally prepared for schooling, especially in the initial years of education. Students may show some learning disorders such as dyslexia, or have stronger visual memory, etc. Ensure that the schools have learning center’s to give extra coaching to such children.

It is also important for a school to have a healthy teacher-to-child ratio, especially in the lower classes. Opt for a school that has frequent teacher-parent meetings and helps you understand the evolving interests of your child.

Financial Commitment

The minimum outgo for an ICSE school is Rs 50,000 for lower classes. For IGSCE, it goes up to over a lakh. This is not just a one-time commitment, it is rather a recurring expense and it keeps rising year after year.

Ideally, a parent should start investing for the child’s education as early as the child’s conception. A parent should start investing for the child’s education till the child becomes financially independent. Given the uncertain economic times, parents should always have 2-3 years’ school fees ready.

There are a number of child plans and money-back plans available in the market, which typically address this need for covering child’s expenses. Typically a parent gets emotionally drawn in to buy such expensive policies. But experts say that mutual funds are the best low-cost investment option.

We get it that choosing the perfect school is a difficult task but not an impossible one! Make a plan and list down your requirements. Identify, study and shortlist the schools that match them. Interact with the parents who send their children to these schools. Make an informed decision and be financially prepared to help both you and your children enjoy their growing years.

How to deal with kids who lie

Most parents feel betrayed and hurt when they catch their child lying to them. This leads to frustration and anger. But you must remember that lying is normal. Prega News is not saying that lying is okay; we’re just saying that it’s natural. It’s something that even adults do.

That is why it’s important that you do not over react but teach your kids not to lie. Before you tell you how to deal with kids who lie, here are a few reasons why most kids lie.

  • To fit in with peers
  • To get attention
  • To avoid hurting other’s feelings
  • To avoid trouble

So, now that you have an understanding of why most children lie, here are a few do’s and don’ts that’ll help you deal with it.

1. Don’t label your kid verbally or don’t mentally brand your child as a liar. An occasional lie doesn’t make him/her a liar.

2. Be honest. If you’re not sure whether your child is lying or not, tell him/her. Do not accuse without proof.

3. Don’t ask questions that are setting your child your child up to lie.

4. Do recognize that a child who’s lying frequently might be struggling with low self-esteem. Lying can be a symptom, not a problem.

5. Don’t jump to conclusions. Your child’s perspective might be very different from yours, but it doesn’t mean that he/she is lying.

 

6. Do implement consequences of lying. You might be an understanding parent, but you also need to be firm, and learn to punish appropriately.

7. Do realize that transitioning from lying is time taking. Do not get frustrated and angry. You need to encourage your child.

8. Don’t use threats to stop the lying or make rules that will punish future lying. You might be saying, “If you lie once more, I’ll…” your child will be hearing, “I don’t trust you. I expect you to lie again.”

9. Do realize that lying can be a cry for help. He/she might be trying to communicate something. It’s your job to figure it out.

10. Don’t promise rewards for the truth. It can confuse children. You need to hold them accountable for their lying.

 

Parents need to know that lying is not a moral issue; it’s a problem–solving issue and/or an avoiding consequence issue. You might not realize it, but most of the time the kids know the difference between right and wrong – that is why they’re lying.

Remember, do not overreact, if you catch your child lying, punish him/her for the behavior, not for the lie. This can help you form a healthy and trusting bond with your child. Your child is trying to solve a problem in an ineffective way and it’s your job to coach them on how to face the problem and you’ll see that in time they’ll learn how to do it without lying.